I have trained myself to always expect the worst. That way when things go wrong like they do I am not crushed by defeat like most optimists. Optimists get post traumatic stress disorder. People who live in a fantasy state where most people are good and there is fair play. When they are exposed to the raw stench of reality it is to much for many of them to deal with.
Pessimists like myself expect the worst, are not surprised by betrayal and deceit. We expect the worst behavior possible from people and are rarely surprised. People who have the "perfect" marriage and come home to find another man humping away at their wife are crushed emotionally. The cheating whore not only betrayed your trust, disrespected your marriage but she is going to blame you for her actions with the time honored "you drove me to it!" "you were gone working and I got lonely".
Of course the fact that you were out busting your ass, eating diner food and living in cheap accommodations so you could provide a good living for your family is somehow lost in all the finger pointing and recriminations that follow the discovery of her infidelity! She actually convinces the kids that it was all your fault. Whores are excellent liars.
Then of course the lying whore wants huge child support payments so you have to practically live in a cardboard box or sleep in your car in order to come up with that money every month. You live like a bum until the last child turns 18. Of course, most of the money goes to her clothes , shoes and car while your kids grow up eating Mac and cheese and bologna and wearing clothes from the thrift store.
It's been almost 30 years and I occasionally check to see if the whore is dead. I genuinely look forward to the day I can read her obituary and if there is any fairness at all to be had in the Universe hopefully she lingered for quite away and suffered a great deal. I loved her and she not only killed those feelings but she killed a part of me I have never been able to get back. But hey, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger!